been gone for a while....

Hi blogsville! i'm going to rant first...how come no one comes to my blog???do i need some special ad or something?????blogsville veterans help a sista out! Don't get me wrong, the reason i started blogging is to share my thots with individuals of varying backgrounds whilst maintaining annonymity...but what's the point of wanting to share when there's noone to share it with???

I took a break after my last post to sort myself besides it's the holy month of ramadan so i'm busy upping my spiritual game...it's just amazing to feel what hungry people go through, helps us appreciate what we have even more besides my self-control has improved so much and i am more aware of the things i used to take forgranted...alhamdulillah(which translates into "God be praised").

Another issue is that everywhere i go people seem to think that i'm much older than i really am and they make it their duty to remind me ..it's not about the way i look oh!it's just that i'm an old soul at heart, can't blame me if i'd rather listen to Al green/sade than chris breezy/rih-rih(added her since i already mentioned sade..helps to maintain a balance)...I've always been like this though, it was so bad that when i was growing up, my parents used to leave me in control even though i have an elder brother, even now that we're grown, i have to check up on my siblings and guess who they run to when they have a problem???..me!

k..i have to go and make a start on the cooking nw..the men in my house expect a well cooked meal after a lond day of fasting...today's special :some ground rice and some efo-riro! i need your comments guys!

Im confused....

i'm confused,i'm worried,im going crazy

wat's all this about u might ask??

i'm in love but it doesn't seem right

he's supposed to be my prince charming and me his nubian princess

It seemed right but now it's all wrong..

Am i expecting too much???am i being greedy ...do i want it all????can i have my cake and eat it???

My mum always said "dnt u ever think that ur not worth it"

Heck i agree with my mum! i can get it all....ok maybe not all but i sure deserve it...so i've made up my mind....i'm going to demand it all....so blogville wish me luck!





p.s ; this post might make me out to be a nutter but it just reflects my state of mind at the moment..full details of events that lead to this semi-rant will be given later..i am indeed sane and not in need of mental help or therapy..lol..

WHERE DID ALL THE GOOD(INSERT MEN OR WOMEN) GO??

..Looking around nowadays espescially in the uk where i live there seem to be so many single-parent families around (and i don't even want to go into a rant about the dangers of unstable parenting), this has even become a norm amongst nigerians too. I have been speaking to a lot of women and men about this and it's basically a battle of the genders. Men seem to think that there are no good women around and vice versa...its wierd cos most relationships nowadays are borne out of convinience and not out of understanding. I was having a conversation the other day with a guy and he only wanted to get married cos he wanted kids, he doesn't believe in luv and all that "crap", after speaking to him at length on this issue, i discovered that he got to this descision based on experience. Apparently naija owambes are avenues for married folks to seek other patners( ie single or married), digits are exchanged and affairs start. It's funny cos all these atrocities take place in the presence of their children...apparently,young kids are having to cover up for cheating parents and all what not......this situation scares me cos looking at my parents' relationship and at how my siblings and i turned out, i am worried about what the situation could become in a few years... so is there simply a shortage of good men or women in terms of marriage or are we simply making excuses for our inability to remain faithful and make our marriages work????

The beginning

...ok....been thinking about starting a blog for a while now...finally decided to take the plunge...a brief introduction though..i'm simple yet complicated..i say that because am a lot of things to different folks....some call me shy....some call me unserious.and to some i'm simply the girl next door but to those that truly know me, i'm only shy cos i like to be left alone with my thots..i'm playful and unserious because it masks my flaws..im the girl next door cos i don't like being noticed....newais i'm hoping that i can truly express myself using this blog....hopefully i don't get bored... and leave anytime soon...here's to many more posts..so common blogville show a newbie some love!!!